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2015高考考前押题卷选编：卢卫霞英语试卷本试卷分第Ⅰ卷（选择题）和第Ⅱ卷（非选择题）两部分。第Ⅰ卷选择题第一部分听力(共两节。满分30分)略第二部分阅读理解(共两节，满分40分)第一节(共15小题；每小题2分，满分30分)阅读下列短文，从每题所给的四个选项(A、B、C和D)中，选出最佳选项，并在答题卡上将该项涂黑。AWhenIfirstenteredcollege,IwasafraidthatIwasnot“uptoit”.Iwasafraidofbeingawayfrommyfamilyforthefirsttime.HereIwouldhavetomakefriendswithstrangepeopleandperhapsalsocompetewiththemforgradesincoursesIwouldtake.WeretheysmarterthanIwas?CouldIkeepupwiththem?Wouldtheyacceptme?Isoonlearnedthatmylifewasnowuptome.IhadtosetastudyprogramifIweretosucceedinmycourses.IhadtoregulatethetimeIspentinmystudyandsocializing.Ihadtodecidewhentogotobed,whattoeat,andwithwhomtobefriendly.Ihadtoanswerthesequestionsformyself.Atfirst,lifewasrough.ImademistakesinhowIusedmytime.IalsomademistakesinhowIchosemyfirstfriendsincollege.Shortly,however,Ihadmylifeundercontrol.Imanagedtogetmyselftoclassontime,domyhomeworkandhandthemin,andpassmyfirstexamswithsatisfyinggrades.Inaddition,IdevelopedacircleoffriendswithwhomIfeltcomfortableandcouldsharemyfears.Isetupmyownroutine,onethatreallymetmyneeds.Asaresult,Ibegantolookuponmyselffromadifferentperspective(视角).Ibegantoseemyselfasapersonresponsibleformyselfandresponsibleformyfriendsandfamily.Itfeltgoodtomakedecisionsandseethemturnouttobewiseones.Iguessthisiswhatpeoplecall“growingup”.Whatdidlifehaveinstoreforme?Atthatstageinmylife,IwasreallyuncertainwhereIwouldgoandwhatIwoulddowiththeyearsaheadofme.ButIknewIwouldbeabletohandlewhatwasaheadbecauseIhadsuccessfullyovercomethemajorprobleminmylife:Ihadmadethechangefromapersondependentonhisfamilytoapersonwhowasresponsibleforhimself.21.Theauthorwasanxiousabouthiscollegelifeatfirstbecause______.A.hehatedtogetonwithstrangersB.helackedsomespecialistknowledgeC.hewasatalossinthenewsurroundingsD.hewasafraidofmakingmistakesinfrontofothers22.Wecanlearnfromtheauthor’searlyexperienceatcollegethat______.A.hegotusedtothenewlifewithoutmuchtroubleB.helosttheabilitytohandlethingsindependentlyC.hecametorealizeheshouldbeinchargeofhisownbusinessD.hewasafailureinmanyaspectsexceptinschoolperformance23.Theauthor’scollegelifefinallybroughthimasensethat______.A.hebecameapersoncaringforothersB.hewassmarterthanhisfellowstudentsC.hebroughtconfidencebackinmakingdecisionsD.hecoulddealwithhispersonalmattersindependently24.Whichisthebesttitleforthepassage?A.MemoriesofMyTimeinCollegeB.College:ATurningPointinMyLifeC.MyColorfulCollegeLifeD.CollegeLifeBringsMePressureBCookingKillsFourMillionPeopleaYearPollutedairborneparticles（大气悬浮颗粒）kill7millionpeopleayear,reportstheWorldHealthOrganization.ThatnewsmaynotcomeasasurprisetoanyonewhohasseenimagesofchimneysinBeijing,DelhiorMexico.Butthosefactories―oreventhejammedroadwaysofmoderncities―arenotthebiggestkiller.Eachyear,some4.3millionpeopledieearlierthantheyshouldbecauseofpollutedairinsidetheirhomes,saystheWHO.What'scausingtheairinsidepeople'shomestobesopoisonousthatitkillsaround11,000peopleaday?Stoves.“Havinganopenfireinyourkitchenislikeburning400cigarettesanhour.”saysKirkSmith,aprofessorattheUniversityofCaliforniaatBerkeley,whoseresearchsuggeststhathouseholdairpollutionfromcookingkilledbetween3.5millionand4millionpeoplein2013.Notallstovescausethiskindofharm.TheonesSmith'stalkingaboutarethosethatthe3billionpeopleinthedevelopingworlduseforheatandcooking,whichburnsolidfuelssuchaswood,coal,orcropwasteinsteadofgas.Thesmokefromthosefiresproducesharmfulfineparticlesandcarbonmonoxideintohomes.Poorventilationthenpreventsthatsmokefromescaping,raisingfineparticlelevels100timeshigherthanthelimitsthattheWHOconsidersacceptable.Breathingthisairdayindayouteventuallycausesalotofdiseases:morethanathirdofthe4.3milliondieofastroke,whileaquarterdieofheartdisease.Andaroundone-thirdofannuallungdiseasedeathsworldwideareduetowastefromcoalstoves.Exposuretendstobeextremelyharmfulforthepeoplewhospendthemosttimearoundthefire―usuallywomenandyoungchildren.Infact,theWHOreportsthathouseholdairpollutionalmostdoublestheriskforchildhoodlungdisease.25.AccordingtoKirkSmith'sresearch,______.A.factoriesarethebiggestkillerworldwidenowadaysB.burning400cigarettesanhourisextremelydangerousC.householdairpollutionfromcookingissurprisinglyharmfulD.some4.3millionpeopledieearliereachyearthantheyshould26.Whatshouldbethedeadlykillerinahouseholdkitchen?A.Solidfuels.B.Coalstoves.C.Poorgas.D.Cookingsmoke.27.Theunderlinedword“ventilation”inParagraph4probablymeans“______”.A.airingB.cookingC.burningD.cooling28.Theauthorintendstotellpeople______.A.howtoavoidpollutedairintheirhomesB.tostopcookinginthehouseholdkitchenC.toguardagainsthouseholdpollutionfromcookingD.howtopreventchildhoodlungdiseasesinhouseholdCItisapopularmyththatgreatgeniuses―theEinsteins,PicassosandMozartsofthisworld―springupoutofnowhereasiftouchedbythefingerofGod.Einstein’sfatherwasanelectricalengineerwhofascinatedhissonwithpracticaldisplaysofphysics.Picasso’sfatherwasanartteacherwhohadyoungPablopaintingbowlsoffruitattheageofeight.Mozart’sfatherwasamusicianemployedatanoble’scourtwhowasteachinghissontosingandplayalmostbeforehecouldwalk.Ineverycase,whenyoulookintothebackgroundsofgreatpeople,thereisthispatternofveryearlystimulationbyaparentorteacherfigure.Onestudyhasidentifiedtwokindsofparentstyle―thesupportiveandthestimulating.Itfollowedfourgroupsofchildren:onewithsupportiveparents,onewithstimulatingparents,onewhoseparentscombinedbothqualitiesandafinalgroupwhoofferedneither.Childrenwhoseparentsweresimplysupportivewerehappierthanaveragebutwerenotparticularlyattentivewhenstudyingorworkingonsomething.Thechildrenwhoperformedbestwerethosewhoseparentswerebothsupportiveandstimulating.Thesechildrenshowedareasonablelevelofhappinessandwereveryalertduringperiodsofstudy.Childrenwhoseparentswerestimulatingwithoutbeingsupportivewerecandidatesforexhaustion.Thesechildrendidworklonghours,buttheiralertnessandhappinessduringstudytimewasfarbelowthatofchildreninmorebalancedfamilyenvironments.Anothercrucialfactoristheneedforparentstohaveproperconversationswiththeirchildren.Throughhavingthechancetotalkwithadults,childrenpickupnotonlylanguageskillsbutalsoadulthabitsandstylesofthought.OnereasonwhypersonslikePicassoandEinsteinhadaheadstartinlifewasthattheyhadparentswhodemonstratedhowtothinkaboutsubjectslikeartorphysicsataveryearlyage.29.Peopleusuallyholdthebeliefthat_________.A.geniusesarebornbynatureB.geniusescallforsupportfromGodC.geniusesareproductsofgoodparentingD.geniusesarecloselyconnectedwiththeirenvironment30.Whatcanwelearnbylookingintogreatpeople’schildhood?A.Theyputonunusualtalents.B.Theyreceivedearlyparentalstimulation.C.Theywereforcedtodowhattheydisliked.D.Theyshowedgreatcuriosityaboutknowledge.31.Whatcanchildrenbenefitfromtheconversationwiththeirparents?A.Theydon’tfeellonelyanymore.B.Theypickupstylesofthought.C.Theyfindouttheirfavoritecareer.D.Theyacquireadultlanguagequickly.32.What’sthemainideaofthepassage?A.Parents’rolecontributestocultivatingextraordinarychildren.B.Tobeagenius,achildneedstobeveryluckyinhisgenetics.C.Parentsshouldfocusmoreoncultivatingchildren’screativethoughts.D.Familyconversationsareofgreatimportancetochildren’sdevelopment.DMakealongstoryshortforyourchancetobepublishedinReader’sDigestandwin$25,000.Hereareafewofourfavoriteentriessofarinour“Yourlife:TheReader’sDigestVersion”contest.Afterreadingthese,headovertoFacebookandsubmityourownstoryaboutaspecialmomentorlessonthatshapedyourlife.“There’sAlwaysaJohn”ByDarlaBoydInmyfirstyearofteaching,therewasakidnamedJohninmyclass.Johnwasdifficulttocontrolandhenearlydrovemecrazy.Whiletalkingabouthimoneday,anoldteacherputhishandonmyshoulderandsaid,“TherewillalwaysbeaJohn.Yourjobistolearntodiscoverwhatmakeshimdifferentandhelphimsucceed.”Thenextyear,therewasindeedanotherJohn.Butthatadvicetaughtmethatthereissomethingtoappreciateineveryone.“AnEarlyKeyLesson”ByElaineWestBeforeIbeganmyfirstteachingjob,mymother,ateacherof30years,gavemeaveryspecialgift―fivesimplewordsthathavehadaneffectonmyentirelife.“Makefriendswiththejanitor(门卫).”Herwisdomtaughtmetherespectforalltypesofcharactersandcontinuestoenrichmylifetothisday.Justfivelittlewordsbutwhatanimpacttheycanhavewhenyoutakethemtoheart.“RaisingMommy”ByJanDavisBeingamothercanalwayspresentchallengesandrewards.Someonetoldmeearlythatchildrenwillteachyoueverythingyouneedtoknow.Beingamotherisbeingraised.Ourchildrenbecomeouradvisers.Theirdreamsbecomeourprofessors,aswearetakingnotescarefully.Thesoundsoftheirlaughterandsmilesareagreatrewardtous.Theirtearsremindusthatitisokeytofail,andthatweshouldwipethetearsawayandtryagain.33.WhatdidElaineWest’smotheradvisehertodo?A.Takecareofjanitors.B.Don’ttreatstudentsdifferently.C.Don’tjudgepeoplebyappearance.D.Respectpeoplefromdifferentbackgrounds.34.Fromthelastparagraph,wecaninferthat_________.A.amothershouldbegivenmorecareB.amotherimprovesherselfgreatlyinparentingC.beingamotherhasmorechallengesthanrewardsD.childrenshouldrealizethedreamsoftheirparents35.Thetextismostprobablya(n)_________.A.noticeinvitingcontributionsB.introductiontoacontestC.adforthreenewbooksD.posteraboutalecture第二节(共5小题；每小题2分,满分10分)根据短文内容,从短文后的选项中选出能填入空白处的最佳选项。选项中有两项为多余选项。Trusthasbeenconsideredasthebasisofanyrelationship,includingfriendship.Norelationshipcanlastlongwithalackoftrust.Notmanyofyourfriendswillhaverealfaithinyouasyouwouldliketobelieve.36Sometimes,ittakesyears,evenacompletelifetime,totrustsomeone.However,howdoweknowifourfriendshavefaithinus?37Withwhomwillyousharethingsthatyoudon’twanteveryonetoknow?Itwouldbewithaclosefriend,whomyoutrustasmuchasyoutrustyourself.Whomdoyoulookuptoforadvicewhenyouneeditthemost?Ithastobeeitheryourparentsoryourfriends.38Thisisashiningexampleoftrust.Youonlyseekadvicefrompeopleyouholdinhighregardandfinddependable.Thefriendswhotrustyouwillneverforgettoincludeyouintheimportantdecisionsoftheirlife.Argumentsandheateddiscussionsareapartofeveryrelationship,andthisisalsotrueforfriendship.39Whilesomepeoplefinditdifficulttoforgiveandforget,yourfriendswillneverhaveproblemsmovingon.Itisbecausetheytrustyouandbelievethatyouwillnevercauseanypaintothemonpurpose.Therearetimesinlifewhenyoufindyourselfalonelysoldier.40Yourfriendswillneverletyoudownandwillstronglystandforyouwhenyouneedencouragement.Youcandeterminethattheytrustyouandbelieveinyourbeliefs,iftheysidewithyouwhenyouneedthemthemost.A.Peoplecanbeextraordinarilyjealoussometimes.B.Youknowtheywillneverpassonawrongsuggestion.C.Infact,winningtrustis,byfar,themostchallengingaspectofrelationships.D.Twopeoplecan’thavethesamereactionstoasituationanddifferentopinionsdoexist.E.Nomatterhowcloseyouaretoyourfriends,youcan’ttakethatcomfortlevelforgranted.F.Ifyourfriendssharetheirsecrets,there’sagoodpossibilitythattheyhavemuchfaithinyou.G.However,peoplewhoarefortunatetohavebeenblessedwithtruefriendsareneveraloneinanybattle.第三部分英语知识运用(共两节。满分45分)第一节完形填空(共20小题；每小题1．5分，满分30分)阅读下面短文，从短文后各题所给的四个选项(A、B、C和D)中，选出可以填人空处的最佳选项。并在答题卡上将该项涂黑。WhenIwasthirteen,onedaymymomtoldmyfamilythatshehadtotellussomething.Somydad,mybrotherandIallsatdownonthesofatobeginthediscussion.Youcouldfeelthe41atmosphereoftheroom.Itwas42thatsomethingwaswrong.Thenmymomtoldusthatshehadbeendiagnosed（诊断）withaveryseriousdisease.Thatwaswhenweallhadamomentof43andcried.Afterthatmymomstartedthe44andhadtotraveltothehospitaleveryday.Afteraweek,shebegantoloseher45,sosheshaveditalloff.Mymomwouldalwayswearbright-coloredscarfsandafterawhile,she46tobuyawig（假发）.Alongwithlosingherhairshelostallhernails.47,Ihadneverseenadesperatelookinmymom'seyes.IrememberonedayIwentwithmymomtothehospital.Whenwewere48forhertoreceivethetreatment,wekepttellingjokes.Webothburstout49fromtimetotime.Everyoneinthewaitingroomwasso50,whilewewereinthemiddleoftheroom,chatting51.Neitherofuscared52peoplethoughtofus.Afteraboutayearofthetreatmentandallthe53,onedaymymomsaidshewantedtotellussomethingimportant.Asmymomwasabouttospeak,asmile54onherface.AtthatmomentIknewthatitwasgoingtobesomethingvery55.Shetoldusthatshehadrecovered!AtthatmomentI56downintears.Theyweretearsofjoy.AtthatmomentforthefirsttimeinaverylongtimeIhadafeelingthateverythingwasgoingtobe57.Nowtwoyearshaspassedandmymomis58ofthedisease.IamsohappythatIhavemymomwithmeeverystepoftheway.Mymom59metovalueeverymomentinmylifeandtoremain60throughthickandthin.Shehastaughtmesomuchandcontinuestoteachmemore.41.A.tenseB.calmC.friendlyD.cold42.monC.obviousD.strange43.A.regretB.angerC.sorrowD.hesitation44.A.appointmentB.treatmentC.operationD.observation45.A.hairB.weightC.energyD.hope46.A.likedB.offeredC.decidedD.afforded47.A.ThereforeB.HoweverC.BesidesD.Finally48.A.arrangingB.waitingC.wishingD.preparing49.A.cryingB.quarrelingC.talkingD.laughing50.A.downB.overC.outD.off51.A.nervouslyB.curiouslyC.happilyD.gently52.A.whyB.whenC.whereD.what53.A.painB.failureC.adviceD.love54.A.turnedB.formedC.changedD.burst55.A.attractiveB.activeC.excitingD.amusing56.A.cameB.lookedC.bentD.broke57.A.fairB.clearC.readyD.fine58.A.freeB.afraidC.awareD.sure59.A.askedB.taughtC.persuadedD.admitted60.A.determinedB.modestC.independentD.positive第Ⅱ卷非选择题第三部分英语知识运用(共两节。满分45分)第二节（共10小题；每小题1.5分，满分15分）阅读下面材料，在空白处填入适当的内容（不多于3个单词）或括号内单词的正确形式。Susan:I’msogladtoseeyou,David.61hasbeensuchalongtime.Howareyou?David:I’mfine,andyou?Susan:I’mjustwonderful.God,timegoesbysoquickly!AreyougoingtotheairqualityconferenceinChicago?David:Iam.AndI’mreallygladtoseeyou.JustlastnightIfoundyournameintheconferencematerials,butitdidn’tcometomy62thatwewouldmeetontheplane.Susan:I’mafraidIhaven’thadtimetolookat63conferencematerialsverycarefully.Ihadnoideayouwerecoming,butIamcertainlygladtoseeyou.Iwasfeelingverynervousaboutgoingthere64friends.David:Icanimagine.MyEnglishhasnotgottensofluentsinceIreturnedfromtheStates,65I’mrathernervousmyself.ButIsawthatyou66(give)themostimportanttalkattheconference.Susan:67(frank)speaking,I’mscaredtodeathaboutit.David:I’mjustgivingatalkinoneoftheworkshopsections,andIhopeIwon’tmakeallofyou68(disappoint).Susan:ButyourEnglishismuch69(good)thanmine.David:Butyou’renowtheDirectoroftheAirQualityInstitute,soyou70knowthetechnicalterms.Susan:Maybe.ButIstillcan’tunderstandtotallyalotoftechnicaltermsinmyfield.第四部分写作（共两节，满分35分）第一节短文改错（共10小题：每小题l分，满分10分）假定英语课上老师要求同桌之间交换修改作文，请你修改你同桌写的以下作文。文中共有10处语言错误，每句中最多有两处，错误涉及一个单词的增加、删除或修改。增加：在缺词处加一个漏词符号（∧），并在其下面写出该加的词。删除：把多余的词用斜线（＼）划掉。修改：在错的词下划一横线，并在该词下面写出修改后的词。注意：1．每处错误及其修改均限一词。2．只允许修改10处，多者（从第11处起）不计分。Onecoldeveningduringtheholidayseason,alittleboyaboutsixorsevenwasstandingoutinthefrontofastorewindow.Thelittlechildhasnoshoesandhisclotheswerejustrags.Ayoungwomanpassesbysawthelittleboyandcouldreadthedesireinhispaleblueeyes.Shetookthechildbythehandandledhimintothestore.Theresheboughthersomenewshoesandacompletesuitofwarmlyclothing.Theycamebackoutsideintothestreet,sothewomantoldthechildtocomehomeandhaveahappyholiday.ThelittleboylookedherandaskedhowshewasGod.ShesmiledandrepliedthatshewasjustoneofHischild.第二节书面表达（满分25分）假定你是红星中学高二（1）班的学生李华，你的英国笔友Chris刚刚转学，感到一切都很陌生。他在邮件中向你询问如何尽快融入新环境。请你根据以下信息回信。1.多跟同学交流沟通；2.积极参加学校活动；3.向老师寻求帮助。注意：1.词数100左右；2.可适当增加细节,以使行文连贯；3.信的开头和结尾已给出,不计入总词数。DearChris,Iamsorrytohearthatyouare havingtroublefittinginatyournewschool.____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Yours,LiHua2015高考考前押题卷答案21―24CCDB25―28CDAC29―32ABBA33―35DBA36―40CFBDG41―45ACCBA46―50CBBDA51―55CDABC56―60DDABD61.It62.mind63.the64.without65.so/therefore/thus66.wouldgive/weregiving67.Frankly68.disappointed69.better70.must短文改错Onecoldeveningduringtheholidayseason,alittleboyaboutsixorsevenwasstandingoutinthefrontofastorewindow.Thelittlechildhasnoshoesandhisclotheswerejustrags.Ayounghadwomanpassesbysawthelittleboyandcouldreadthedesireinhispaleblueeyes.Shetookthepassingchildbythehandandledhimintothestore.Theresheboughthersomenewshoesandahimcompletesuitofwarmlyclothing.Theycamebackoutsideintothestreet,sothewomantoldthewarmandchildtocomehomeandhaveahappyholiday.Thelittleboylooked^herandaskedhowshewasgoatif/whetherGod.ShesmiledandrepliedthatshewasjustoneofHischild.children书面表达Onepossibleversion：DearChris,Iamsorrytohearthatyouare havingtroublefittinginatyournewschool. Suchproblemsarequitenormal.Perhapsthefollowingsuggestionsmaybe helpful.First,Ithinkyoumayneedtocommunicatewithyourclassmatesasmuchaspossible.Inthisway,youwill gettoknoweachotherbetter.Second,itmightbeagoodideaforyoutotakepartinmoreactivities,whichusually involveteamworkandinteractionswithotherstudentsand aretherefore goodfordeveloping friendlyrelationships. Lastly,facedwithsometoughproblems,youmight consideraskingyour teachers,who canusually offeryousomesensiblesuggestions.Isincerelyhopemyadvicewillbeofsomehelptoyou.Ifthereis anythingmoreIcandotohelp,pleaseletmeknow. Yours, LiHua
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1.凌万顷之茫然? 2.抱明月而长终? 3. 是造物者之无尽藏也? 4.一尊还酹江月5.元嘉草草? 6.烽火扬州路? 7.朝搴阰之木兰兮? 8.不义而富且贵相关试题The New York Times ran an interesting article today, . The reasons for this vary and can include the fact that one has a family and children to worry about, time pressures, scheduling, and the fact that as one gets older one becomes pickier about the people one chooses to spend time with in any event.
I found the article interesting because while not discounting all of the above, my thirties and forties have been very good years for me in terms of the acquisition friends, both in terms of quantity and of quality of friends. I can say without reservation that a number of the people that I’ve met in the last decade have become some of the most important people in my life, friends that I can’t imagine living my life without now. I don’t disagree with the writer’s general thesis — I do think it is generally harder to make new friends the older one gets — but it does make me wonder what the mechanics of my situation have been that make the last decade different for me than for this particular author.
The answer, think, is relatively simple: I moved into a line of work with a deeply-established social structure. Which is to say that when I became a science fiction author, I plugged into a field where there were lots of conventions and social events, i.e., opportunities to socialize with people who have similar enthusiasms, and where both fans and pros in the genre generally buy into the idea of a community. All things being equal, people are friendly and supportive rather than not.
Additionally, the way that the science fiction community comes together for conventions and similar events works really well for the general impositions that adults have making and maintaining friendships. When fans and pros go to conventions, by and large they are taking a bit of time from their “real” lives to have two or three days of highly concentrated social experiences: Hanging out in hotel bars, staying up late with deep (and not so deep) conversations about work and life, and otherwise focusing on enjoying themselves with others — not worrying (as much) about life, and kids, and other parts of their existence that distract from making a connection with other adults.
There’s also the fact that people in science fiction and fantasy (and also I think in literature generally) are pretty good with the social media thing. While there’s certainly the possibility of downside in blogs/Twitter/Facebook what with complete and utter assholes trying to get your attention, which we don’t need to get into at the moment, the lovely upside to social media is that it makes it easy to stay in contact with friends even when you can’t physically be with them at any particular moment. Snarking with my pals (authors and otherwise) on Twitter or Facebook helps keep the friendship humming along, so you don’t have that start-and-stop feeling that the NYT writer mentions.
(I don’t think that any of this is unique to science fiction and fantasy, mind you. There are other communities that adults can join into and have at least some of the same dynamics in play. This is just the one I lucked into.)
Finally, I think there’s a personal aspect as well. I find it relatively easy to be friendly with people, and consequently, to make friends — and also (this is somewhat important, I think), I don’t fret if I don’t see a friend for months or even years at a stretch. Because, you know, I realize we’re all adults and have lives and kids and such, and that sometimes that’s just the deal. I mean, I can usually tell pretty quickly whether I want to be friends with someone. If I do, then the qualities that make them someone I’d want to be friends with are (generally) not likely to go away. So I don’t worry about seeing them again. When I do, I assume it’ll still be there. And in the meantime, as noted: Twitter and blogs and such.
(And also, occasionally: Email and/or phone and/or other private communication! That’s right! Not everything in the New Age has to be done in public!)
I do think friendship as an adult has to be approached with the understanding that it is different for adults than for people in their twenties or below. If you try to do friendship like you were sixteen years old, then it’s probably going to end up like anything you’d approach as if you were sixteen, i.e., kind of a hot mess. Being sixteen is fine when you’re sixteen. It’s problematic when you’re thirty-six or forty-six. So, be a grown-up about what friendship is and how it’s done in between everything else in your life, and I think you’ll be fine.
I’ve noted before here, a while back, that prior to coming into the world of science fiction, I told Krissy that I was pretty sure I had made all the friends I was ever going to make. It turns out I was entirely wrong, and it turns out that I am very happy about that. I wouldn’t trade the friendships I’ve made in the last decade for anything in the world. They were a surprise for me and I’ve been grateful for them. I continue to be grateful for every new friend I make. I hope to make at least a few more before I’m done.
(Picture above of a group of us at the Hugo afterparty, borrowed from Ramez Naam)
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